2. Don't always rely on your memory for accurate information Our memory does serve us well in certain situations. However, it can
also be our own worst enemy. That's because it comes with
confirmation bias already built in.
Our brain's memory does not store information in the same way it was
originally presented. What we see and remember is based on our pre-
existing beliefs, values, and self-perception.
If you have low self-esteem, then your brain tends to confirm those
ideas, bolstering your low confidence level. Every time you remember a
certain event, you think of the negative feeling associated with it, such
as the mistakes you made.
To
counteract that reaction, improve your self-image and build high
self-confidence, it is important to get other perspectives on these
situations. These perspectives are best obtained from someone you
respect and have a healthy relationship with, such as a family member,
friend, colleague, or mentor. Your trust and respect for the person
offering perspective will help you see past your own negative self-talk
on the matter. These external impressions can be invaluable in helping
you rethink things and refocus on positive thinking.
3. Talk yourself out of negative self-talk Negative thoughts do damage to a confident person, but you can boost
your self-esteem by using a positive affirmation to transform your
mindset. There is a lot to be said about the power of positive self-talk as
a way to work past challenges and barriers, including those you put in
front of yourself.
You can talk yourself out of fear, self-doubt, and fixation on past
mistakes by reminding yourself of your capabilities and
accomplishments. These "pep" talks can also help you work through a
challenge by reflecting on what you can do or how you can find a
possible solution. Through proactive discussions with yourself about
what can be done, you stop focusing on the fear that you won't be able
to solve a problem.
