Who is responsible of how you feel? YOU! Do you remember what we said about responsibility and choices? Do you remember that you are
in control of your thoughts? Well, your emotions come from your thoughts.
How? An emotion is energy in motion, a physical reaction to a thought. If you
can control your thoughts, you are also capable of controlling your emotions.
Don't be scared by them! Your emotions are part of you but they are not YOU.
Accept them. Every emotion has its function. Fear protects you. Anger allows
you to defend yourself, put limits on, and show others what bothers you. Sadness
allows you to mourn and identify a lack. Happiness allows you to feel great,
etc. It's very important to be connected to your emotions and know how to express
them and not to neglect them.
Don’t fool yourself and say “I’m happy” if you’re not. Instead analyze where the emotion comes from. Don’t identify
yourself with the emotion. I repeat, you are not your emotions! Become an
observer and watch where your emotions lead you. Observe them and watch
them pass by like the clouds on a blue sky. Accept them like you accept rainy
days. When you look out of the window and it rains you don’t think that it will
rain all the time now, do you? You accept the rain as part of the meteorological
climate – that doesn’t mean that it rains all the time. You can do the same thing
with anger, sadness, fear,
etc. Just because they show up at one moment in time
doesn’t mean that they will be there forever.
It helps to know that emotions are not bad or good. They just are. If you want to write something to get them out
of your system – do it. They will pass. Emotions are messengers that we feel in
our body. Listen to them! If you are hooked to an emotion, you are hooked to the
past and you are losing the present moment. What is it you really need? Stop
searching outside and start searching inside of you.
