WATCH WHO YOU ARE SPENDING YOUR TIME WITH!
Jim Rohn said
that “You are the average of the five persons you spend the most time with”, so
you better take this seriously! Choose to spend more time with people who bring
out the best in you, who motivate you, who believe in you. Be around people
who empower you.
Remember that emotions and attitudes are contagious.
People around you can be the springboard to motivate yourself, gain courage,
and help you take the right actions, but on the other hand can also drag you
down, drain your energy, and act as brakes in the achieving of your life goals. If
you are around negative people all the time, they can convert you into a negative
and cynical person over time. They might want to convince you to stay where
you are and keep you stuck, because they value security and don’t like risk and
uncertainty. So
stay away from the naysayers
,
the blamers, the complainers.
The people who are always judging or gossiping and talking bad about
everything. And as Steve Jobs said at the famous Stanford address
“Don’t let
the noise of the opinions of others drown your own inner voice.”
It will be
difficult for you to grow and thrive, if people around you want to convince you
of the contrary. And what do you do if it’s people close to you? The only thing
you can work on is becoming a better person yourself. If you grow and develop,
soon negative people will turn away from you because you don’t serve their
purposes any more. They need somebody who shares their negativity and if you
don’t do that they will look for somebody else. If that doesn’t work you seriously
have to ask yourself the question if you should start to spend less time with them
or stop seeing them at all.
But that’s a decision you have to make.
In my whole
life I automatically separated people from my life that didn’t support me and I
never regretted it, although it wasn’t easy! After my own coaching training -
when I reinforced all the principles that you are learning in this book and
changed myself - some of my colleagues had no other explanation than actually
thinking that I had joined a sect!
Action Steps:
1. Make a list of all the people you have in your life and are spending time
with. (Members of your family, friends, colleagues).
2. Analyze who is positive for you and who drags you down.
3. Spend more time with the positive people and stop seeing the toxic
people (blamers, complainers) in your life, or at least spend less time with
them.
4. Choose to be around positive people who support you.
5. Watch Steve Jobs’ Stanford commencement address
here
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