Any changes in your
mood?
What would happen if you made this a daily habit?
Chapter 83: No worries
“If a problem is fixable, if a situation is such that you can do something about it,
Then there is no need to worry. If it's not fixable, then there is no help in
worrying.
There is no benefit in worrying whatsoever.”
Dalai Lama XIV
Many people are constantly worrying. They worry about things that happened in
the past that they can’t change, things in the future that they have no influence
over, or about economy, wars, and politics which they have no control over.
Even funnier is that most of the catastrophes that you are worrying about turn
out to be a lot less horrible in reality or just never happen. Mark Twain was right
when he said,
“I've had a lot of worries in my life, most of which never
happened.” Keep in mind: it doesn’t matter how much you worry, it will
change neither the past not the future!
Also, worrying usually doesn’t make
things any better, does it? Instead, it will drag you down and you will lose the
present moment. Can you already grasp what a waste of time and energy
worrying is or shall I give you another example? This example is from Robin
Sharma’s book “Who Will Cry When You Die?” A Manager who did one of the
exercises Robin suggests at his seminars identified the following: 54% of his
worries were about things that would probably never happen. 26% were related
to past actions that couldn’t be changed. 8% were related to other people’s
opinions which he didn’t even care about. 4% were personal health questions
that he had already resolved.
Only 6% referred to questions that needed his
attention.
Identifying his problems and dropping the ones he couldn’t do
anything about or which were just draining energy, the man eliminated 94% of
the worries that had tortured him so much.
Action step:
Make a list of your worries: Which ones are related to the past?
Which ones are related to the future?
Which ones are outside your control?
Which ones can you actually do something about?
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