don’t stereotype; how you don’t make fun of other people; how you don’t make
assumptions; how
you have clean communication; how you give the benefit of
the doubt; how you don’t pass judgement until you have absolute clarity. Until
you have clarity, you don’t say anything. You reserve your judgement.
Somebody asks your opinion, ‘What do you think about this imam?’ ‘What
do you think about this person?’ You say, ‘Well, I don’t know enough to say, but
I think he’s pretty bad’. No, no, no! ‘I don’t know enough to say.’ Full stop! It’s
done! I’ve got nothing else to say. I’m going to assume he’s a good person, I’m
almost sure he’s a good person. If anything,
jid li-akhīka ʿudhran
: find excuses
for your brother.
If you don’t know enough just say, ‘Look, I don’t know, I’ve only heard
things’ which obviously is
qīl wa-qāl
—when you hear something bad and you
spread it, this is against the teachings of the Prophet (
ṣallā Allāh ʿalayhi wa-
sallam
). So when you say, ‘You know what I heard...’
and you continue your
sentence, you just violated something the Prophet (
ṣallā Allāh ʿalayhi wa-
sallam
) said. When you start saying, ‘You know what I’ve heard….’ ‘No never
mind, I didn’t hear anything. It was somebody else.’ Change the subject. Don’t
finish the sentence, because that’s part of spreading
ẓann
. And then the heard,
the heard, and the heard goes so far that people just start making all kinds of
assumptions, then start making decisions based on those assumptions—
subḥān
Allāh
.
We have to become people that see clarity. Until something is
absolutely
clear
, we don’t
take a step forward, we never take a step forward. This is in
family life, this is in work life, this is in community life, this is even in terms of
the news sometimes we hear things in the news that are outrageous and we
assume that it’s true. An entire machine built on the idea of selling fear, how can
we trust it? There has to be more thorough investigative journalism before we
make assumptions about an entire people or events. We have to develop a
scepticism when:
in jā’akum fāsiq bi-naba’ fa-tabayyanū
(
al-Ḥujurāt
49: 6)—
when a corrupt source comes to you with news then clarify it. Don’t just listen to
it
fa-tabayyanū
, and in another
qirā’ah
(variant reading),
fa-tathabbatū
. Until
you are absolutely firm about what it actually is, do not pass judgement. Do not
make assumptions.
May Allah (
ʿazza wa-jall
) help us live according to these principles that can
make our lives, the lives of our families and the life of our community and the
ummah so much better than it is today. May Allah (
ʿazza wa-jall
) help us to
become those who don’t look for flaws in what
other people are saying but
wife, has children; is the leader of their household. You’re
leading your
household, and so when you learn something about the leadership of
Rasūl Allāh
(
ṣallā Allāh ʿalayhi wa-sallam
), and I learn something about it, I have to apply it
to my family. Some of you are managers at the office so you have to apply this
to your employees because you’re leaders over them. Some of you are teachers
and you’re leaders of your classroom so you have to apply it to that. Some of
you are in leadership positions in organizations or at
masājid
or schools, in any
of those capacities, you are responsible over people. Whether it’s part time or
full time, whether it’s a little bit or a lot, it doesn’t matter but in pretty much
every institution
that human beings belong to, there’s a hierarchy and there’s
leadership. And in many of those cases you happen to be in a position of
leadership. It may not be absolute leadership, it may be limited, but still it is
there. Bear in mind that recognition, that it’s really not just talking about
Rasūl
Allāh
(
ṣallā Allāh ʿalayhi wa-sallam
) but through his legacy, it’s talking to all of
us and
bi-idhni-Llāh taʿālā
, we can benefit from these beautiful
āyāt
and this one
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