4. Counter negative thoughts with positive ones A lack of confidence often originates from negative thoughts that
chip away at us. These thoughts destroy our self-image and self-worth. They
are not easy to get rid of, either. To do so, you will need to
stifle each
negative thought with multiple positive thoughts. Have positive
affirmations ready to say to yourself or out loud. Reflect on each positive
notion before saying or thinking another one.
Don't think of it as ignoring or
suppressing negative thoughts, because
they will still be there to take a swipe at your self-confidence later on.
Instead, acknowledge the bad thoughts and lack of self-confidence
before replacing them with an inner dialogue composed of positive
ideas, including your accomplishments and capabilities.
5. Be curious Curiosity helps you grow. More importantly, it can motivate you to try
new things and be open to fresh perspectives and ideas. Going through
the process of experiencing these new things, perspectives and ideas
can help boost confidence.
Being curious can give your mind something to actively focus on so it
stays busy on a positive thing. It also can point you in new directions
that you didn't know were possible. In doing so, you can change your
life for the better. Any positive results you create will, in turn, help build
your self-confidence.
6. Gain control by facing your fears When we feel we are in control, there is a sense of confidence and
comfort that surrounds us. It's when we are afraid that we feel the most
out of control. While it may seem
counterintuitive , this is the time to
move closer to what scares us or makes us feel threatened. By doing
so, we are actively going after what scares us. And, when we do, we
can eliminate the threat and fear.
The result of taking such action makes us more confident because we
feel more capable. Plus, provided that nothing bad happened to us
when we went after what was scaring us, it's a win to add to our
confidence scorecard.
