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Research Says…
People who leave work at a consistent time are less likely to feel “wired” later at night.
(Source: The Kruse Group, 2015)
Do You Need to Be Everything for Everyone?
Jessica Turner, the author of The Fringe Hours: Making Time for You, surveyed
over 2,000 women for her book and, among other things, asked them to describe
the hardest part of being a woman. The common theme: Being everything to
everyone.
This is something Turner relates to herself. In addition to being a writer, she
runs the highly popular Mom Creative (
www.themomcreative.com
) blog, has a
husband, has three children under the age of six, and tries hard to maintain her
friendships. She describes how these multiple roles can become unhealthy.


For women, this “disease to please” can wreak havoc on every area of
our lives. We are nurturers by nature. We want to help and love on
others. But sometimes our actions are not an outpouring of love but a
result of wanting to please someone else.
This phenomenon is closely related to the disease of perfectionism. It’s
dangerous to base our self-worth on what others think of us.
Many people are surprised that I, a man, can relate a lot to what Turner is
describing in her book. Perhaps it’s because I’m a single dad and accustomed to
maintaining a household. Regardless of the reason, I still spend too much time—
and more importantly, too much stress—on little things that really don’t matter.
Recently, my financial advisor told me he was going to be in my
neighborhood and wanted to stop by my home and give me an update on my
money. It was a sign of high service, and I was grateful.
But my mind immediately took off—better brew a pot of coffee; is the fridge
stocked with Coke? What if he drinks Diet Coke, do I have any of that? We’ll be
meeting in the kitchen—need to clean the kitchen counter. Is he allergic to cats?
I should lock them in the basement...
It’s completely ridiculous to think this way about my advisor making a house
call. Among the numerous reasons:
1. He works for me; he’ll keep working for me if I keep paying him.
2. He knows far more important things about me—like my net worth
—than my kitchen.
3. He’s a guy and is probably in awe that another guy is able to keep
the house as clean as I do!
4. He knows me personally and I’m sure judges me by my values and
kindness, not my hospitality skills.
It is one thing to have good manners and to want to treat friends well and
another to feel like you have to be perfect. Instead of running around for half an
hour preparing for a visitor, I could have just greeted him with a smile and
asked, “Can I get you some water?”
As Turner says in her book: You are never too busy to make time for what
you love. It’s just a matter of prioritizing—evaluating how you spend your days
and dedicating time for what you value. If something is really important to you,
you will find a way to fit it into your life.
There Will Always Be More to Do


There will always be more to do in every area: •
You can always do more
stuff at work.

You can always straighten up more rooms and clean more
closets.

You can always do more yard work.

More, more, more!
So you need to master the practice of letting go of the more, since there will
always be more to do.
Once you master this, you’ll find it easier to get those workouts in, easier to
get home to the family at a reasonable hour, and easier to spend time on yourself
without feeling guilty.
How Does This Apply If You’re A(n)...

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