here
.
Chapter 65: Stop whining!
“Never tell your problems to anyone...
20% don't care and the other 80% are glad you have them.”
Lou Holtz
“It is better to light one small candle than to curse the darkness.”
Confucius
Complaining is poison in your desire to become happier.
It’s an
absolutely useless behavior that encourages self-pity and doesn’t accomplish
anything. Complainers are not attractive at all. It’s the mentality of a victim and
that isn’t you any more, is it?
Stop cursing the darkness and light a candle.
Stop complaining about not having time and get up an hour earlier (
Chapter 25
).
Stop complaining about your weight and start exercising (
Chapter 75
). Stop
blaming your parents, your teachers, your boss, the government, or the economy,
and take responsibility for your life (
Chapter 3
).
It’s nobody’s fault that you go on smoking, that you eat unhealthy food, or that
you gave up on your dream, but your own. It’s you who pushes the snooze
button instead of getting up half an hour earlier and who chooses fear over risk.
Don’t blame others for not living a satisfying life. You own your life! You can do
anything you want with it. The sooner you get this, the sooner you can move on
in the direction of your dreams. Remember where to keep your focus!
Complaining about your present circumstances will put your focus on them and
attract more of what you don't like. You have to get out of this vicious circle and
concentrate on what you want instead (
Chapter 12
).
Look inside yourself, encourage your positive ambitions and your will to
succeed. Now go and create the circumstances you want. Start taking decisions
and start living.
Action Steps:
1) Make a list of all your complaints.
2) What have your complaints achieved?
3) Transform your complaints into requests.
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