Chapter 66: Become a receiver! “I can live for two months on a good compliment.” Mark Twain Do you find it difficult to accept a gift or a compliment? Well, this stops NOW!
You have to become a receiver! It’s very important to accept gifts and things
with joy and it’s also the secret to getting more of what you want. If you get a
present and you’re saying “Oh. That’s not necessary”, you are taking away the
joy of giving a gift from the other person, and the same thing goes for
compliments.
Take a closer look at this behavior! Is there a hidden feeling of
“I don’t deserve this”, or “I’m not worth it” behind the “That’s not necessary?”.
There is no need for justification. Don’t diminish the pleasure of giving for the
other person. Just say “Thank you!” From today on I dare you to practice your
“receiving skills”. If somebody gives you a compliment, accept it graciously
with a “Thank you”. Own it. Don’t return it. You may say: “Thank you! I’m
happy you feel that way!” and let the other person enjoy the experience. It will
help you a lot and take your self-esteem to a whole new level if you manage to
eradicate the following behaviors: • Rejecting compliments.
• Making yourself small.
• Giving credit to others although you have earned it.
• Not buying something nice because you think you don’t deserve it.
• Looking for the negative if someone does something good for you.
Action Steps: 1) From now on just say “Thank you!” for every gift and compliment you
receive! (Don’t explain or justify) 2) Analyze if you have any of the five
behaviors mentioned above. If yes, work on it/them.
Chapter 67: Stop spending time with the wrong people! “Whatever you do you need courage. Whatever course you decide upon, there will always be someone to tell you that you are wrong.” Ralph Waldo Emerson
“The person who says it can’t be done shouldn’t interrupt the person who is doing it!” Chinese proverb
