Revive Your Heart: Putting Life in Perspective

Ṣaḥābah
, who are willing to die for you, they are dying for the sake of
Allah (
ʿazza wa-jall
), and even they— Allah guarantees it—would have run
away from you. And what is 
infiḍāḍ
, when the verse says 
la-nfaḍḍū min ḥawlik
.
Infiḍāḍ
in Arabic means when you drop a cup, or a glass and it shatters and all
the pieces of glass run away from each other. You know why that’s described?
Not 
la-farrū
—they would have run away from you—or 
la-abaqū min ḥawlik
—
they would have escaped from you. No, no, no: 
la-nfaḍḍū min ḥawlik
. Why
infiḍāḍ
? Because when a glass breaks, you can’t put it back together. They will
run away from you in a way, they’ll never come back; and even if they do, it will
never be like the unity that they once had. This is the lesson of leadership taught
to 
Rasūl Allāh
(
ṣallā Allāh ʿalayhi wa-sallam
): 
la-nfaḍḍū min ḥawlik
—you
cannot afford to be like this to them.
We are very good at getting angry. Muslims, 
mā shā’ Allāh
, we’re very good
at getting angry. Everything makes us angry. You know what really should make
us angry? How far we are from the legacy that the Prophet (
ṣallā Allāh ʿalayhi
wa-sallam
) left, how far we are from the word of Allah, how bad we are at
controlling our temper; that should make us mad at ourselves, not anybody else.
What do you do after that? The 
āyah
is not done, and I have to conclude; but
you know as this 
kalām
, this speech, this orientation—leadership training from
Allah to 
Rasūl
(
ṣallā Allāh ʿalayhi wa-sallam
) concludes— what does He tell
him? He tells him:

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... So pardon them, and pray for their forgiveness, and take counsel
from them in matters of importance. And when you are resolved on a
course of action put your trust in Allah. Surely Allah loves those who
put their trust (in Him).
(Āl ʿImrān 3: 159)
Then you know what you do? You go and be nice and all of that, but you
need to pardon them and move on—
faʿfu ʿanhum
, lovingly pardon them. 
Wa-
staghfir lahum
, and make 
istighfār
for them, ask Allah to forgive them. There’s
nothing between you and me, we’re good. I’m no longer angry; I’m already
being nice to you, that’s number one. Number two, when the meeting is over and
you are going to go make 
duʿā’
, you’re going to make 
duʿā’
for the 
maghfirah
of
Hamzah (
raḍiya Allāh ʿanhu
), you’re going to make 
duʿā’
for the entrance into
jannah
of all of those 
shuhadā’
; you will also make 
duʿā’
for the archers who
started this mess. You will make 
duʿā’
for them. This will be your true test of
leadership. You know that you have nothing left in your heart, when you are
making 
duʿā’
for your parents, when you are making 
duʿā’
for your loved ones;
you can make 
duʿā’
for those who disappointed you, those who messed up:
that’s a leader.
And by the way, this 
duʿā’
is not in public, you don’t walk into the meeting
and start the meeting by saying, ‘May Allah forgive you people!’ No, no, no, this
is in private. Making 
duʿā’
in public is a spectacle, you’re just embarrassing
people. This is your way of blaming them; but in private when you’re begging
Allah, in your own time, then you made time to beg for them, the ones who
disappointed you, and said to Allah, ‘