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For example, say you have a belief that you can’t make genuine, long-lasting relationships with other people. Any event that could suggest otherwise will more or less send your mind into a spiral.
Imagine attending a meet-and-greet for work. People with that belief would purposely avoid talking to people, or they’ll keep it to small talk, not really looking to bond with people.
This behavior is warranted because, in their head, they will do anything to discourage themselves or to sabotage themselves from making a friend.
This all happens because they had bad experiences or thoughts that link to their social skills.
The last difference is how involved each part of our mind is, and the best way to explain it is through an example we can all relate to.
Do you sometimes feel you can’t fall asleep because your mind is wandering?
Part of the reason for this is due to the subconscious mind. When you’re falling asleep, your conscious mind is resting; however, your subconscious isn’t.
In fact, your subconscious mind never falls asleep. It works all day, every day controlling your body, breathing, and maintaining organ function and cell growth.
Our subconscious mind is the reason why we dream and why we can only remember vivid details of said dream.
In this way, the subconscious is passive. It continues to work, but often without us knowing. However, we can, of course, deepen that connection.
Now that you have a better grasp on what each mind does, the next step is for us to improve the connection between our minds. There are a number of ways for you to improve this connection, and most of them stem from habits your conscious mind can create to strengthen your subconscious over time.