Lesson №22 Videos : Consequences of Raising Spoiled Children Article: What Happens When a Child Is Spoiled?

Increased defiance and disrespect

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Temurbek Akbaraliev 
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IELTS 8.5 @ieltsapex 
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Spoiled children who like to whine, beg, ignore, or manipulate others to get their 
way may display defiance and disrespect in adulthood. When rebellion is part of a 
child’s natural response, more negative behaviors are likely to develop in adulthood. 
How do you handle spoiled children? 
If you notice your child is spoiled, you need to resolve the issue early enough to 
avoid long-term consequences. As a parent, you can start by being kind and 
respectful, but responsible and firm when the situation calls for it. Set and enforce 
house rules, but don’t make so many restrictions that your child sees no option but 
to act out. Remember that spending quality time together will always be more 
effective in building bonds and rewarding good behavior than materialistic items. 
Remain calm whenever your child throws tantrums, and don’t easily give in to your 
child’s demands. Learning to say “no” is part of effective parenting. If you’re 
worried that your child is spoiled, there’s still time to help them develop healthier 
attitudes. Try addressing some of the above behaviors and seek support from 
professionals to start building better habits at home.
Essays:
Some parents buy their children whatever they ask for, and allow their children to 
do whatever they want. Is this a good way to raise children? What consequences 
could this style of parenting have for children as they get older?
It is true that some parents are overly permissive and tend to spoil their children. In 
my opinion, this is not a good parenting style, and it can have a range of negative 
long-term consequences. 
If parents want to raise respectful and well-behaved children, I believe that a certain 
amount of discipline is necessary. Having worked with children myself, I have learnt 
that clear expectations and boundaries are necessary, and it is important to be able to 
say ‘no’ to children when they misbehave or try to push against these boundaries. 
This is the only way to help young people to regulate their desires and develop self-
control. In my view, parents who do the opposite and constantly give in to their 
children’s demands, are actually doing more harm than good. They are failing their 
children rather than being kind to them. 
The children of indulgent or lenient parents are likely to grow up with several 
negative personality traits. The first and most obvious danger is that these children 
will become self-centred adults who show little consideration for the feelings or 
needs of others. One consequence of such an attitude could be that these adults are 
unable to work successfully in teams with other colleagues. A second negative trait 
in such people could be impulsiveness. A person who has never lived with any 
boundaries is likely to lack the patience to carefully consider options before making 

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Temurbek Akbaraliev 
–
IELTS 8.5 @ieltsapex 
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decisions. This may lead, for example, to compulsive shopping, unwise financial 
decisions, or even criminal activity. 
In conclusion, parents should help their children to develop self-control and respect 
for others, and I do not believe that the permissive parenting style supports this 
objective.