‘No, no, this trip is for the boys.’ Yes, if there is a trip for the boys, then there
better be another trip for the girls. Because if you want
jannah
that badly, you
can’t discriminate between the boys and the girls in your family. You as a father
have
to give equal love, this is our religion; it’s beautiful. It’s beautiful. We
make life ugly for ourselves and for our children; we have to come back to the
beauty that this religion is.
May Allah (
ʿazza wa-jall
) allow all of us to be good fathers, good brothers,
and good
awliyā’
of our families. May Allah (
ʿazza wa-jall
) never allow us to
forget
the obligation, the responsibility we have towards our daughters. The
daughters that are reading this, don’t email your father and say ‘Abba read this’.
Don’t do that. Don’t be selfish in your religion. You only want people to read
what will make your life better. We started with this point. Everybody wants
something for themselves and they give Allah the leftovers. People use religion
to get their way. Allah knows when people use religion to get their way. This
religion is not for you to use; this religion is for you to serve—to
serve Allah;
not yourself. Allah will protect you and Allah will protect your rights but don’t
use it as a weapon. Don’t quote
aḥadīth
at people and
āyāt
at people.
In a sermon it’s okay—that’s my job. But inside the household, I’m not
going to go and quote things to my wife or to my daughters and they shouldn’t
be quoting things at me. That’s not what this
dīn
and its
āyāt
are for, not for
arguments and winning arguments. That’s abuse. Abuse of Allah’s words, abuse
of the words of the Prophet (
ṣallā Allāh ʿalayhi wa-sallam
), and so many people
do it. A father is telling his daughter to do xyz and she doesn’t want to do it. He
says:
wa-bi-l-walidayn iḥsānā
—haven’t you read Qur’an? That ain’t about
Qur’an, my friend. That’s about what you want, and you are imposing it on her.
Using the
āyāt
as a weapon, this is not right, that is not how it was
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