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Girls Don’t Want To Be Picked Up:
Last night there was a beautiful Israeli girl being “picked-up” by at least 4
guys all jumping to be the next to lean in and talk in her ear. My main purpose
when interacting with a woman, is to enjoy myself, share my value, and
maybe meet an interesting/sexy/nourishing person in the process, but mainly,
first and foremost its to be already enjoying my own company, relaxed, and
having fun with her, whether that is steaming sexual tension, or just stupid
and goofy behaviour.
The reason you have trouble picking up girls, is because
you are instantly
setting the dynamic of man TRYING to pick up girl
. Its the same as you
setting the dynamic of man being in friend-zone.
You create her role before
you even say hello.
Women don’t want to be picked up. 
They want it to be an organic moment of
serendipity
, that is purposefully
created
via a man of integrity and confident sensitivity
. Not something
you have done to her, but something you have both chosen to create and build
together. 
If your intention is to be “direct” and pick up girls… 
you are basically
shitting all over yourself before you even interact with her. You will
stink, and in most cases repulse her, and instantaneously be placed into

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the same bracket as every other guy out there trying to pick up some
scraps.
I don’t care how “spiritual” a man thinks he is, or how much he has built
himself up. Creating a pick-up paradigm is making the woman feel like a
sexual target, based SOLEY on precipice of “ 
she is superficially hot, thats
all i need, i have no standards, lets approach and hand her my testicles
and desperation on a plate, because fuck everyone else, i’m so direct
” –
This, paradoxically is weak!