Suicide Notes

everything,” I said. “And sometimes it’s better not to.”
“Give me an example,” said Cat Poop.
“Say she asks you if her jeans make her look fat,” I said. “And they do.
If you tell her that, she’s going to hate you.”
“Even if it’s true?” said Cat Poop.
“Especially if it’s true,” I told him. “A real friend would lie and say the
jeans look great.”
He wrote on his pad. “Are you making notes for a self-help book?” I
asked him. “Because I have lots of tips.”
“So you don’t think your friend would want to know that the jeans don’t
look good?” he asked.
“She already knows they don’t,” I said. “She just wants me to make her
feel better. It’s just one of those things you don’t tell someone, just like you
would never tell your friend you hate her boyfriend. Or girlfriend,” I added
quickly. “Boyfriend or girlfriend.”
“Isn’t that being dishonest?” suggested Cat Poop. “What if that person
isn’t right for your friend? Shouldn’t you say so?”
“People always say they want to hear the truth, but they really don’t,” I
said. “Like how many parents really want to know that their kids are having
sex or smoking? Even if they ask, they just want you to say that
everything’s fine. Then they can believe that it is.”
“And you think that’s healthy?” he asked me.
“You’re the shrink,” I said. “You tell me.”
“I’m interested in hearing what you think,” said Cat Poop.

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I waited a minute before I answered. “What I think is that the goatee
you’re trying to grow looks ridiculous,” I said.
He looked surprised. Then he glanced at the mirror that hangs on one of
the walls.
“See?” I said. “Honesty isn’t so great, is it?”

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Day 21
A couple of years ago my dad took us all to Hawaii over spring break. One
of the things we did there was learn how to scuba dive. It was sort of fun,
even though when we first got in the pool to learn how to use all the gear, I
was afraid the air would just run out and I’d drown. But I got used to it.
And let me tell you, there is some far-out stuff under the water. Our
instructor said that something like 70 percent of the world is covered by
water, and less than 1 percent of the population ever gets to go under there
and look around. So when you do, you’re seeing stuff that not many people
get to see. My favorite was this fish that kept swimming up to my mask and
butting his head against it. I had no idea what he was doing, but when we
got back to the surface the instructor said the fish was trying to fight his
reflection in my mask.
That’s how I feel being in this place, like I’m a diver looking at a bunch
of really strange fish. Take today. For our group session, Cat Poop (who by
the way shaved off the goatee, so that’s another point for me) had us do this
completely retarded exercise. First he split us into two teams. Again, I
ended up with Juliet, which left Sadie with Rankin. Martha got to be the
audience, since she still isn’t exactly talking a blue streak. Then we had to
pick these slips of paper out of three different boxes. The first one was a
setting, the second was a situation, and the third was a line of dialogue.
The idea was that we had to come up with a skit using the three different
things. We had ten minutes to come up with something, and then we had to
perform it. I let Juliet pick the slips. Our setting was a theater, our situation
was that someone had forgotten something, and our line of dialogue was,
“Would you like another cookie?” When we looked at what we had, we
both groaned. I mean, come on, what are you supposed to do with that? But
that’s the whole point of the exercise, right? So we went off in a corner and
threw some ideas around.
Juliet is the one who came up with the idea for the husband forgetting
his wife’s name. Brilliant. It totally worked. I was the husband, and Juliet
was my wife. The idea was that we run into someone I work with during

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intermission at a play and I’m trying to introduce my wife, but for some
reason I can’t remember her name.
I decided to use Martha for the third person, since she wouldn’t have to
say anything. She stood there and Juliet and I pretended to run into her. I
kept saying things about how great the show was, trying to avoid
introducing my wife to Martha, and the whole time Juliet was pretending to
eat these cookies she had in her purse. That was how we got the line of
dialogue in: Juliet kept offering me cookies.
Okay, so you kind of had to be there. Trust me, it was good. At least we
thought it was.
Sadie and Rankin’s skit was better than ours, but in our defense I have
to say it’s because they got way better things to work with. Their setting
was a spaceship, their situation was that they were lost, and their line was,
“How did that get in here?”
The two of them sat in side-by-side chairs, like they were piloting a
spaceship. Sadie was the captain and Rankin was a brand new navigator on
his first trip into space. He had managed to get them lost, and was arguing
about it with the captain. While they were fighting, a fly was buzzing
around, making everything worse. That’s when Rankin’s character said,
“How did that get in here?” and opened a window in the ship to shoo the fly
out. Because they were in space, they both got sucked out the window along
with the fly, which the two of them acted out by rolling around on the floor
together and screaming.
See what I mean about watching a lot of weird fish? Sometimes they
look normal, but then one day they go and do something that totally
surprises you—and it gets them landed in a place like this. I don’t think
anyone who knows me would ever have thought I’d do what I did.
But I did.

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Day 22
It was the “Fun with Marjorie and Eric Show” again today. Otherwise
known as my parents’ weekly visit. Seeing them wasn’t high on my list of
preferred activities for today, but I didn’t have much choice. It was that or,
well, nothing.
The theme of today’s get together was Why? As in, Why did Jeff do