Clients‟ experience of counselling within a narrative framework
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presence of something - and if so what?
I experienced the external pressure of creating this workshop, but I also felt the presence of my aloneness in this. No one else can help me, this is mine, alone. I both want to be individual enough, different enough to create this, but I also want what I create to be appreciated by others, by you. So in my desire for my own freedom to be this different, I find I am also confronted by my desire to be accepted, to belong. And here I note that there are two kinds, or two states of freedom: External Freedom and Internal Freedom External freedom can be seen as living out life as each of us chooses to do, with whatever social, political and religious freedoms we desire, and with a freedom from oppression. Therefore I create this workshop as I choose - but, I think there is a but for it needs to work for you, or it is useless as a workshop. 326 APPENDIX 11 Whereas internal freedom is perhaps the freedom to think, dream, and desire all that our conscious and unconscious worlds wish to conjure up, again with a freedom from oppression. So I dream this workshop into being, but all the while I keep the pressure of the others that will be involved in it. Do I play safe or do I take risks - the choice is mine. But are either of these ideals really possible, and can internal and external freedom be separate, or are they in fact as difficult to separate as the colours in the rainbow? Example If internally you long to achieve academically and attain a particular goal, then the appropriate external course and the right tutors may enable you to do this. But what if having arrived on the course there is an old internal voice within you that reawakens and persistently derides your efforts? Which voice will be the stronger, your desire to achieve, or past recriminations? In such a scenario the external freedom to attend the course may be ambushed by internal oppression. In groups Take a few moments to look at your own lives to see how freedom, and the lack of it have affected you. See if you can find instances in your life where external and internal freedom have worked either together or in opposition. Now think about freedom as we did with containment, as a continuum, with freedom as liberty as one end, and freedom as anarchy at the other. What forms of freedom will there be along this continuum? What words fill this space? Look as last weeks words on the containment continuum. Discuss THE SPACE IN YOU Last week I gave you a sheet of questions about assumptions and containment. This week I have just a few questions with about freedom and containment. Today, as the individual, as the self you know and are conscious of, what sort of containment, and what sort of freedom have you experienced in your life? What assumptions do you have and do they set you free or imprison you? What does your assumptive world cause to happen when you are with your counsellor - does it affect your ability to be contained or to be set free? Do you need containment or freedom to enable you to search in the dark? Work on freedom continuum. 327 APPENDIX 11 Conductive polarities 3. CONDUCTIVE POLARITIES First of all I want us to kind of warm up. To move. Circle game - changing places after initiating eye contact across the circle. Can you use eye contact as a form of “conduction” or “transmission” to get the person of your choice to move. Shut down by touch - hands behind backs as I touch. Discuss this experience. What was it like to start and what was it like to end? What was it like to make / confirm eye contact - to move? Did you want to be motivated by the other person? What happened when you were all making eye contact? CONDUCTIVE - is a way of transmitting - or having the quality or power of conducting. We have already glimpsed containment and freedom in the previous two sessions. I am suggesting that containment and freedom in the therapeutic relationship form a polarity, and that this polarity is conductive so …….. WHAT IS A POLARITY? A polarity is the tendency to grow differently in different directions, along as axis as a tree towards base and apex, that is roots and branches. Tree - overhead Nourishment from ground - nourishment from atmosphere, enabling growth in both directions, - both sunlight and the ground are essential for growth. So are containment and freedom both necessary for growth? With only one kind of food the tree will die. Also may die if growth is inhibited by severing one end of the tree from the other. But it will fight to live and it may succeed. Does this happen with us. If we lose our freedom do we use containment to get that freedom back? Also to grow in different directions at the same time suggests that there will be some conflict, or if you like a straining, or pulling like in a tug of war - there is a friction caused by the two poles of the polarity. But then at other times perhaps the different movements work together in order to achieve a particular aim - like the tree which has been felled - the stump works to start growing again and the roots feed it. Here it seems that the polarities can be both independent of, and dependent upon each other. Jung saw polarities as a necessary aspect of life and therapy - in that they engender movement in the individual towards resolution and momentary equilibrium. How many of you have said or thought at times that you want more balance in your life? What is this balance that we long for? If you watch the scales - it is quite obvious that when the scales are balanced that movement 328 stops. If movement is stopped completely nothing happens Either more or less weight - more or less containment and freedom must be added or taken away for movement to begin again. Like the tree, if one source of nourishment is lost it dies - there can be no more growth - no more movement. But as long as the pull of one polarity against the other remains in place, movement will continue. When talking about this, just in conversation, someone was quick to respond that a plane is balanced as it flies - and of course it is - but it only maintains that balance through movement. Imagine here that all this containment has confined an individual to a compliant life, which is lived through and for others. What happens when this person discovers a new form of containment? A containment that encourages freedom. As this freedom is experienced the weight of containment begins to lift. Again there is conduction, a transmission between, across the two poles. Both are necessary - they interact. Freedom conducts containment, containment conducts freedom. Jung suggested that what we really long for are more instants of momentary equilibrium. We achieve these through opposition. For example if a desired goal cannot be achieved in one direction then it is more than likely that the individual will move in another direction. This removes the conflict- and - it also moves the person forward. Say for instance you don‟t manage to get onto the counselling course you want then if this really is still your desire, to be a counsellor you will find another course. Or you may do something completely different but either way there is progression. What was important to Jung was that movement to a new position had been made. Another way movement may occur is by the union of opposing forces. Two enemies may unite against a third who seeks to destroy them. To Jung opposition was good. Or to put it in more colloquial terms how often do we see two children arguing only to both turn together on the peacemaker who tries to interfere. So what do you do when you face opposition? How do you use containment and freedom to enable you to make progress? Discuss and share in groups. Put ideas on the board - containment - freedom continuum / polarity. Look at with the previous weeks continuums. THE RESEARCH So what I am looking to learn more about in this research is the movement between containment and freedom and if / how this movement effects growth in the client in therapy. Also, what polarities are there in this work, and are they part of the containment-freedom polarity? Lets look at some of these polarities first. separation - merged state beginnings - endings transference - counter-transference conscious - unconscious self - other 329 psychic - physical personal unconscious - collective unconscious positive transference - negative transference acting out - acting in The pilot study has given evidence that the containment - freedom polarity ( C-Fp) exists. Now more information is needed to broaden and define this concept. This will form the main study. So what if you decide to take part will I be asking you to do? Journals Explain - time - content - no right or wrong - no need to concentrate on containment and freedom in that it is there planted within you now and it will show itself almost organically just like a flower opening its petals. What will being part of this research give you? Further your learning about yourself Give you insights into your way of working You will be part of the progress in the counselling world It may give you the opportunity to discover your own rainbows It does not take huge amounts of time, but I will discuss this with you further if you are interested in taking part. As I said when I presented the first of these hours there is no expectation on you to take part. I am looking for up to 15 individuals who are in therapy but if all of you wanted to take part then I would be delighted to have so many. How long - in length - in time? You can also start but pull out at any time. Is there anything else that you would like to ask? How do we proceed from here. Paper passed around for names, addresses and telephone numbers for those interested in taking part.. 330 APPENDIX 12 Table to show incidence of categories in main study journals Weeks / journal entries Alice Who am I Turned On Wriggling Fish Little Girl 1 Over Desire U-U U-U Desire 2 Desire U-U Desire U-U Fighting 3 U-U U-U Towards U-U U-U 4 Desire Desire Desire Fighting Over 5 Over Desire Desire Desire U-U 6 Towards Towards Towards Desire U-U 7 Desire Towards Towards Towards Over 8 Towards Desire Towards Desire Desire 9 Desire Fighting Towards Desire U-U 10 Towards Fighting Towards U-U Towards 11 Fighting Desire U-U U-U 12 Over Desire Over Over U-U 13 U-U Desire Desire U-U Over 14 Towards U-U U-U Desire U-U 15 U-U Over U-U Desire Desire 16 U-U Towards Over Desire Desire 17 U-U Over Desire Towards Towards 18 Fighting Fighting Fighting Fighting Fighting 19 Fighting Towards Desire Fighting Fighting 20 Desire Towards Towards Fighting Fighting 21 U-U Towards Towards Over Fighting 22 U-U U-U Towards Towards Fighting 23 Desire Towards Fighting Towards Towards 24 Desire Fighting Towards Desiring 25 Over U-U 26 Fighting Towards Towards 27 Desire Towards U-U 28 Desire Desire Towards 29 Desire Towards Towards Towards 331 Alice Who Am I Turned On Wriggling Fish Little Girl 30 Towards Towards 31 Towards 32 Towards Desire 33 Over Towards 34 Towards Towards 35 Fighting Towards 36 Towards Towards 37 Fighting 38 Fighting 39 Desire 40 Towards 41 Over 42 Towards 43 Towards 44 Towards 45 46 Desire 47 48 49 Fighting 50 51 52 Towards 53 Towards 54 55 56 57 58 Desire Key: U-U - uncontained-unfree Desire - desire for containment-freedom Towards - towards containment-freedom Over - over contained-overfree Fighting - fighting containment-freedom Blank - no counselling and no entry 332 333 334 335 336 337 338 339 340 341 342 343 344 345 346 347 APPENDIX 13 Example of a main study journal and analysis MAIN STUDY JOURNAL ANALYSIS Yüklə 1,47 Mb. 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