Guide to Informed Choices
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for women my age. Miscarriage is also common for post-abortive women. No one told me that…
By the grace of God I was allowed to have one son, my precious boy who will never have a brother or sister — and that‘s my fault. —Becky
I got pregnant again in May 2008. I was so excited words couldn't describe it. I ended up having a miscarriage. I was so crushed. —Maria
This so-called "safe" and legal abortion landed me with an infection. These [ 2}
abortions damaged my cervix, and badly scarred my womb/uterus… Born again, the Lord found me a wonderful husband at the age of 34 and ten months later blessed us with a precious child, a son, by C-section! I so love being a M OM
children, siblings for Shawn. But sadly, specialists said that my cervix and uterus were so damaged and scarred that they could hardly believe I had him. —Denise
Which reminds me of these famous last words by an abortion clinic: A very small percent of women experience minor complications that will not affect the ability to become pregnant in the future. 269
A few years after the abortion, I tried desperately to get pregnant. I wanted a quick fix for my loss, but as much as I tried, it never worked… I have tried to get pregnant again, but I haven't. Now when I think of it, I never want a child, because I'll feel like I'm trying to replace the one I've lost. —Christy My grief for all my children is beyond degree, especially what I felt when I was forced into the 2 abortions. I finally understood and was able to cope with how the abortions affected me spiritually. I know that God understands the emotional pain that I have, and I know that HE loves
me. I just wished that those 2 abortions had never happened. At this point in my life, I feel that the reason that I can't carry to term and have a healthy baby is because of the 2 abortions.... I did name my children. Their names are Peyton Elizabeth, Sean Patrick, Matthew Luke, Dream Marie and Destiny Ann, Isaiah Joel, Gabriella Faith, Joel Pate and Abagail Grace, Madison Hope, Morgan Elisa, and Whisper Faith, Haven Olivia, and Kelsey Elise. —Hope
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I botched my one chance at being a mother ―When I had my abortion 55 years ago there was no one I could even talk to. I cried so much for that baby and I regretted my decision so much. You see, I have never married or had a child again. That was my only chance of being a mother and I botched it up. I have lived all these years and not a single day has gone by without me remembering my baby… I am much older now and as I come nearer to the end I seem to think about it more often. I wonder what might have been. I miss my girl so much. I have friends and nephews and nieces and I love them dearly, but I would give anything to have my daughter back. I have never been a religious person, but what if there is a God and he hates me and my daughter hates me.‖ 270
—―Valerie‖ quoted in post-abortion newsletter
Broken Branches
A couple of weeks after the abortion I knew something was wrong. I was bleeding excessively heavy. Many weeks went by and I was still bleeding heavily. I finally went to the doctor. He told me that my abortion had not been a total abortion and there were still parts of the baby that were left inside of me, and that I could have an infection. He did the best he could do in his office but couldn't guarantee anything. Three more weeks pasted. Now I was pale and weak. I had just married the man who I had become pregnant with. It was time to go to a specialist. He immediately put me in the hospital for a DNC to scrape all the mess left inside of me. As I woke from the anesthesia the doctor told me that I had a lot of scar tissue, and that I would probably never be able to have any more children. I was devastated and heartbroken. …Today I am a happy, healthy mother of 3 biological children and 2 stepchildren. What a blessing they are to me, but I will always think about my first child and what a terrible thing I did to him or her. —Rhonda
Two years after Jess was born, I was pregnant again. This time it was an ectopic pregnancy. By the time I got into surgery, the tube had broken and I was bleeding out. I‘ve come to the conclusion that the abortion must have left a lot of scar tissue inside me, making it hard to get pregnant, and causing the tubal pregnancy. 271
—Carol
I've been on the birth control pill from that day on, even to this day...for over 20 years. I'm horrified of pregnancy again after the last experience. H ORRIFIED
... Ever since
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the abortion, I've never been able to want kids…
too afraid to get pregnant again. —Joanne
We tried for 3 years to get pregnant. Funny, it was pretty easy to do the first time! I finally did get pregnant with my daughter Jess. 272
—Carol
In late 1987, my boyfriend—the same one I had had the abortion with—and I got married. In 1989, we got pregnant, and boy,v were we happy! But our baby girl was stillborn at seven and a half months along. We named her Faith Maryam. It was while I was in labor with her, knowing she was dead, that I consciously remembered my abortion. And it was there, in the hospital, that I named my aborted baby Jamie. …I had a miscarriage in 1999, and I named that baby Mary Joseph. —Cheryl
Sometimes when one of my children did something I thought was adorable, guilt would kick in and I would think of the baby I aborted. What would it be like? What would it have done so adorable? How could I let myself feel good with these children when I
one? I subconsciously pushed them away from me because I didn‘t feel worthy to have them. I didn‘t feel like I deserved them. A wall of guilt stood between me and affected my ability to bond with the other two children I birthed. They deserved better. A choice I made before they were born affected them without their even knowing it.
—Wendy
I am now happily married with 3 beautiful, healthy kids and often think about how they would‘ve enjoyed a big brother. —Donniel
Mentally I was a wreck. I was very over- protective of the kids, afraid they would get hurt in an accident. I had frequent thoughts of terrible accidents or fatal diseases. I was so afraid God would take them from me. I tried to make up for failing my unborn children by being super mom. I was always room mother, field trip chaperone, and tried to give them everything they wanted. —Tena
the abortion, I‘m not able to have any kids.
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—―Vanessa Landry‖ Reason #29 ―Abortion could emotionally or physically affect your fertility‖
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Reason #30 Abortion carries risks
But I haven‘t heard of any risks! The Planned Parenthood Position is That Abortion Poses No Demonstrated Health Risks.
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—Planned Parenthood Affiliates of New Jersey peaking of abortion, it has been said that ―there has been almost a conspiracy of silence in declaring its risks.‖ 275
Indeed, the risks are not well known to the public, yet they are very real for those who experience them. 276
If they are real why haven‘t we heard much about them? There are quite a few reasons, notably the fact that clinics are not required by law to inform women of those risks. (See Reason #4: Abortion Clinics Are Allowed to Lie to You . ) Besides that, even the clinics themselves do not possess complete records of the complication rates for a number of reasons. Let me explain:
1. Women often don‘t return for the free check-up, and not surprisingly — who wants to remember that event a second time around? 2.
Women who experience problems don‘t always come back for follow-up either — hey, would you go back to the place that injured you in the first place? 3.
woman makes a complaint. It is certainly not in the best interests of the clinic to generate negative publicity or increase their complication rate. 4.
not likely to be known right away, and even the woman herself may not be aware of the connection. 277
Here are some possible scenarios:
A woman with a past history of abortion in her college years now desires to start a family. Her efforts are met with frustration after frustration as doctors tell her, ―Sorry, it‘s just bad luck.‖ Depending on the circumstance, infertility can be a direct result of abortion.
finds out the truth of fetal development and realizes she paid someone to kill her own baby. She becomes so distraught that she takes her own life. It‘s directly related to the abortion, but the suicide is not recorded as such.
A couple of years after an abortion a woman discovers just in time that S
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she has a risky ectopic pregnancy. She doesn‘t know it, but studies have shown
a correlation between abortion and increased risk for ectopic pregnancy.
A woman hemorrhages after an abortion and requires a blood transfusion. Unfortunately she was just ‗one of the unlucky‘ to receive blood tainted with the HIV virus, though she won‘t discover it for years. The connection is there, but unnoticed. 278
What is the risk today? This clinic says it‘s low: ―Most doctors today have never seen a complication of an abortion because they are so rare since abortion became legal after Roe v. Wade.‖ 279
This abortion malpractice representative says it‘s high: ―Mr. Alexander said that in the past month, he has received calls from eight women who suffered perforated uteruses, five who required hysterectomies, and 25 who developed infections as a result of fetal tissue left behind in an incomplete abortion.‖ 280
Rights Coalition, Washington Times
Shout Out! The risks of abortion should be made public just like the warnings for smoking cigarettes or the side effects of medications.
What you don‘t want to hear ―We want to make sure that everything is normal after the abortion. We ask that you come back to the clinic for a follow- up visit.‖ 281
A 1996 article in the Miami Herald says ―Major complications occur in 1 of every 200
legal abortions, according to
Contraceptive Technology, a reference book written by physicians.‖ 282
number is closer to 1 in 100 women — ―Fewer than 1 woman in 100 will have a serious complication following an early abortion.‖ 283 Yet, that means for the 3,700 abortions each day in America, 284
around 37 women suffer a serious complication, according to the judgement of abortion clinics themselves! ―Alright, so they happen — give me a list of the risks!‖ Following is a list of the main types of complications possible. It is not intended to describe every possible reaction.
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Confessions from pro-choice literature ―In medical practice, there are few surgical procedures given so little attention and so underrated in its potential hazard as abortion…It‘s no wonder that abortion complication rates are sometimes higher than they should be...abortion is a blind procedure that proceeds by touch.‖ 285
—A training manual for abortionists by one!
Death
n occasional but permanent side effect which affects a small number of abortion patients. (To read more on this risk turn to Reason #63: Women have died from abortion . )
Uterine perforation f the woman is not dilated enough or the pregnancy is misjudged, the abortion instruments may be pushed in too hard or too far, resulting in a puncture. It is actually possible to rip right through the uterus and start suctioning out parts of the intestines or bladder! While these cases are exceptionally rare, it has happened and I would not like to be one of the exceptions. The estimates on perforation risk vary. An abortion clinic says the risk for a perforation with possible damage to organs is 2 in 1000 286 while pro-life groups believe the risk is 20-30 in 1000. 287
A less hazardous risk would be a tear, maybe requiring stitches, maybe not. An abortion clinic proffers that this occurs for 1 in 100 women. 288
First trimester perforation leaves woman sterile One clinic offers these non-reassuring words regarding their 1 st
trimester terminations: ―Obviously, complications, which result in
hysterectomy, will
result in
sterility.‖ 289
And an actual example: In 2007, a 40-year-old woman who was 8 weeks pregnant went to a Nebraska Planned Parenthood clinic for a suction abortion. During her abortion the uterus was accidentally punctured. It was probably around that time that she ―complained of excruciating pain‖ and asked them to stop. They kept going and three employees held the woman down. If this sounds horrific to you, I agree. While the abortion had to be finished, the operating staff could at least have comforted her and given adequate pain relief. Pain is a sign of injury, and should be responded to. In recovery the A I
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woman experienced pain, bleeding and nausea. On a trip to the bathroom she passed out and was taken to hospital. There the attending physician called another doctor in for an emergency hysterectomy. A doctor at the hospital said she had a ―catastrophic perforation‖ and ―Had she not received emergency care when she did, it is my professional opinion that the patient could have hemorrhaged to death.‖ Her lawsuit is claiming that she lost four liters of blood, which is equivalent to 80% of an average woman‘s blood volume. So much for her safe early abortion — and no, it wasn‘t because of her age — it was because of medical error. Hopefully she already had a family, because she certainly can‘t have any kids now. 290
Lincoln Journal Star
Infection ecause it‘s a blind procedure and you don‘t want to create a uterine perforation, it‘s also easy to not go far enough and to leave bits of fetal tissue inside, on which bacteria can thrive.
One abortion clinic says the risk for both incomplete abortion and infection is 1 in 100. 291
Besides bacteria growing on rotting fetal tissue (yuk!), bacteria can also be introduced during the procedure, whether from the clinic environment or simply from the outer part of your cervix. While one abortionist training manual admits that ―each abortion, no matter how carefully performed, results
in a contaminated uterine cavity,‖ 292 this can hardly be helped by practicing abortionists such as Dr. Hodari, who confesses in improper grammar that he doesn‘t always wash his hands because ―after I do twenty abortions my hands were awful because, washing and scrubbing for five minutes.‖ 293
pelvic inflammatory disease (general infection of the area) and endometritis (inflammation caused by infection) can also be caused by infection. 294
While an infection can be treated with antibiotics, the risk is that infection can actually create scar tissue which can block fallopian tubes, impairing future fertility. Infections in the uterus are a major cause of abortion- induced infertility.
Infertility and Sterility s we just mentioned, the repro- ductive organs are sensitive to damage and scarring. Today there is a rising level of infertility in America. Not enough children are available for adoption (a side-effect of abortion), and many women are paying out large sums of money to undergo costly and only partially successful IVF treatments. Could this rise in B A
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infertility have any connection with the large population of women today who have undergone abortions? One study found that a woman with one or more induced abortions had a 3-4 times greater chance of becoming sterile afterwards, compared to those who had never aborted. 295
Abortion leaves woman minus uterus A
named Rasheedah Dinkins is suing the popular abortion clinic in New Jersey that performed her botched abortion. Following her
procedure Dinkins had returned home where she became shaky and ultimately passed out. Her family called the ambulance and on the way to the hospital her heart had to be restarted. Blood loss caused a stroke and required that she undergo blood transfusions. She was in a coma for four weeks and only recently regained her ability to speak. She suffered a collapsed lung and, to top it all off, also had her uterus removed (hope she never wanted kids). All this triggered by the abortion she under- Yüklə 4,63 Mb. Dostları ilə paylaş:
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