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THE DESIRE FOR FREEDOM
Wanting freedom has a huge energy or movement which may be grasped with a sense of control
or power. It may cause a feeling of dislike or irritation with the counsellor and even a wish to
escape from the relationship. It may also surface with feelings of
loss or emptiness for the
isolation experienced in moments of separateness may be too huge to contemplate as such.
This polarity may be seen in the client‟s desire to be accepted by others, to be part of a group or
society and also
the desire to be different, a unique self (Anderson, 1997) who
can also bear to be
outside of a group.
TOWARDS CONTAINMENT - TOWARDS FREEDOM POLARITY
The pull and swing of the pendulum moving from side to side is a useful image for this polarity.
There remains a desire to be merged and or contained by another just as there remains a desire to
keep one‟s freedom and be separate (Field, 1994), whether in or out of therapy. These first
swings towards either side of the polarity may be tentative and momentary,
but are a strong
indication of movement.
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