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themselves as optimists, with women slightly more apt than men (53 per cent versus 48 per cent) to see the
sunny side.
Of course, there is no guarantee that optimism will insulate you from the crunch’s worst effects, but
the best strategy is still to keep smiling and thank your lucky stars. Because (as every good sports coach
knows) adversity is character-forming - so long as you practise the skills of resilience. Research among
tycoons and business leaders shows that the path to success is often littered with failure: a record of
sackings, bankruptcies and blistering castigation. But instead of curling into a foetal ball beneath the coffee
table, they resiliently pick themselves up, learn from their pratfalls and march boldly towards the next
opportunity.
The American Psychological Association defines resilience as the ability to adapt in the face of
adversity, trauma or tragedy. A resilient person may go through difficulty and uncertainty, but he or she will
doggedly bounce back. Optimism is one of the central traits required in building resilience, say Yale
University investigators in the. Annual Review of Clinical Psychology. They add that resilient people learn
to hold on to their sense of humour and this can help them to keep a flexible attitude when big changes of
plan are warranted. The ability to accept your lot with equanimity also plays an important role, the
study adds.
One of the best ways to acquire resilience is through experiencing a difficult childhood, the
sociologist Steven Stack reports in the Journal of Social Psych ology. For example, short men are less likely
to commit suicide than tall guys, he says, because shorties develop psychological defence skills to handle
the bullies and mickey-taking that their lack of stature attracts. By contrast, those who enjoyed adversity-
free youths can get derailed by setbacks later on because they’ve never been inoculated against aggro. If you
are handicapped by having had a happy childhood, then practicing proactive optimism can help you to
become more resilient. Studies of resilient people show that they take more risks; 'they court failure and
learn not to fear it.
And despite being thick-skinned, resilient types are also more open than average to other people.
Bouncing through knock-backs is all part of the process. It’s about optimistic risk-taking - being confident
that people will like you. Simply smiling and being warm to people can help. It’s an altruistic path to self-
interest and if it achieves nothing else, it will reinforce an age-old adage: hard times can bring out the best in
you.