There was one pickup guru I still needed to meet. I didn't want advice from
him on how to pick up girls; I wanted advice on how to stop.
Everyone in the community had mentioned his name. He was a sort of
spiritual presence that hung over the pickup world, a mythological figure
like Odysseus or Captain Kirk or an HB11. He was Eric Weber, the first
modern PUA, the writer of the 1970 book that started it all,
How to Pick Up
Girls, and the subject of the movie with the same name.
I met him in a small post-production studio, where he was editing a
film he had directed. He definitely wasn't peacocked; he looked like a
middle-aged advertising executive, with gray hair, a starched shirt but-
toned up too high, and featureless black pants. Only his eyes, which
sparkled with energy, gave evidence that his youthful daring had not yet
been extinguished.
I am. But I look at it with the sense of being imitated. Part of what came
along after my book was repellant to me. I don't believe in doing things that
twist and turn a person. I was never interested in conquering women in a
despotic way. I was interested in finding somebody to love. However, I
didn't stay passionately interested in seduction. I felt like there were too
many other things I wanted to do.
What made you get over it?
I lost interest after getting married, gaining more confidence in myself, and
realizing that accumulating dozens of notches in my belt wouldn't cure my
existential despair. What also helped was having two daughters who have
occasionally accused me of being sexist, which I am mildly, I guess.
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