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parties. The person you go to the gym with might be considered a friend, but
if you ever needed help moving house, would they be available to lend a
hand? Would they offer to help? Although these friendships may not be bad,
because they assist you in serving a purpose, they quickly fall away when
you’re in need of help. You can’t always expect those people to be there for
you.
Sometimes, we have more superficial friendships than meaningful ones.
Consider whether your friends show you support. Do they applaud when you
win? Do they encourage you to take positive actions? Do they help you grow
as a person? If you’re unsure, your friendships may not be as healthy for you
as you think they are.
If you suspect jealousy or hatred directed at you within your friendship circle,
you’re not surrounding yourself with the right people. True friends want the
best for you. Your success is shared with them. They don’t become bitter
when you get better; they help you get better and ensure you don’t become
bitter!
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Some friends want you to do well, but not
too well. It’s important that we do not settle
for these mediocre friendships either, as
they’ll fill our lives with negative energy.
We all grow and mature at different rates, but some people have slow growth
because they 
choose
to remain stuck. You’ll often meet people who are
caught up in the same routines, doing the same things with the same peers,
and complaining about the same problems. These people actively resist
change and don’t step out of their comfort zone in search of a better life.
They become comfortable with their dissatisfaction.
You may be one of these people, or they may be your close friends. You may
be highly ambitious and finally pluck up the courage to go for more in your
life. Your friends, on the other hand, might not get it, and the difference in
frequencies between you could cause separation. For example, if you wish to
grow spiritually, you may become interested in concepts that are completely
alien – even scary – to your friends.
The truth is, all of your friends teach you something valuable in life. They
each have a role to play. Some have temporary positions, others are
permanent. It’s fine to outgrow people and move on with your life. You must
always focus on your own life, expanding it and growing as an individual.
You can only do great things for others in the world if you genuinely feel
joyful, loving and accomplished. If the people around you choose different
paths or aren’t quite where you are, that’s okay. If they’re supposed to be in
your life, sooner or later they’ll be there; your journeys will align again
eventually.
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