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Handling negative people
Not everyone is going to get you, accept
you or even try to understand you.
Some people will just not receive your
energy well. Make peace with that and
keep on moving towards your joy.
Nearly every single person in the world, no matter how kind or amazing
they’re perceived to be by the majority, will have at least one person who
dislikes them. Only if you stayed alone in your house all day and no one saw
you, spoke to you or knew of your existence, would no one would show
hatred towards you. You acquire haters by being a 
somebody
.
I receive negative remarks from people every now and then, even if I’ve done
a good deed. This is partly because this kind of abuse is so common online in
general, particularly since people don’t have to reveal their identity. Online
they’re free to leave bitter remarks – things that they wouldn’t dream of
saying in real life – without having to take any responsibility for their words.
I remember the first time I was mocked. It was when I was five years old. I
was in school and our class had to describe our parents. Everyone in my class
described both their mum and dad.
When it was my turn, I described my mum and not my dad. This invited
questions from other kids, who asked me what had happened to my dad. I
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didn’t know what to say, and fortunately my teacher intervened. Truthfully, I
had no idea that children were supposed to have two parents. I was used to
having only my mum and I hadn’t questioned it.
At breaktime, some of the kids in my class started mocking me.
They said things like, ‘He hasn’t even got a dad.’
‘His dad is probably dead.’
‘His mum is his dad.’
I became more and more wound up, and reacted with violent aggression. I got
into deep trouble, despite telling the teacher why I’d done what I did.
If I hadn’t been to school, I wouldn’t have had that experience. Even when
we’re really young, it’s usually a lack of understanding and compassion that
creates hatred towards others. If people aren’t the same as us, we’re more
likely to label them as misfits and to mock them. And the more people we’re
exposed to, the higher our chances of receiving judgement and criticism. This
is because we’re now in front of a large audience of individuals, each with
their own perceptions of what 
normal
is.
Just think about celebrities. They’re only human, but because they reach so
many people, they receive tremendous amounts of criticism. We talk about
kindness to others but exclude celebrities as if they’re not human. Sadly,
everyone has their gospel but fails to practise what they preach. They’re the
same people reading and reciting holy words, with unholy behaviours.
They’re the same people who believe they’re on a righteous path, but will
judge others for not being on the same path as they are.
Remind yourself that negativity from others is unavoidable. With our
constant exposure to the rest of the world, and our interactions with it, we’re
bound to face some people who have a low vibration and act unkindly
towards us.
Trying to keep your distance from such people can become a huge ask when
there’s very little you can do to avoid them.
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Here are some important reminders to help you remain peaceful when people
speak negatively about you. You’ll begin to realize that the best defence is
silence and joy.
‘Nobody can hurt me
without my permission.’
MAHATMA GANDHI